“My co-parent and I have found a way to make our kid the center of the Universe”
- Why did you choose Family Law?
I chose Family Law because I understand it. I’m a single mother who co-parents, and luckily we didn’t need to go to court. Having gone through it though, I understand how hard it can be to make things work. On the other side of it, I also know what does work.
My co-parent and I have found a way to make our kid the center of the Universe—so I’ve seen how it changes things when the focus is on giving children every opportunity they can possibly have to be as physically and mentally healthy as possible.
We’ve been lucky that this worked for us out of court, and I wanted to help other parents in this tough situation have an opportunity to go through this process with their children in mind.
“They are incredibly beautiful people working to make something beautiful out of a situation that is so often ugly.“
2. Why choose the Children’s Law Center?
I started working at the CLC last year, and what really made me decide I wanted to work there is seeing that they are 100% sincere and caring in what they’re doing. There is such a strong moral and ethical framework to everything they do. Everyone does everything with heart and conviction.
Even just the feeling you get from being there…it’s not like anywhere else. They are incredibly beautiful people working to make something beautiful out of a situation that is so often ugly. But the situation itself doesn’t have to be so ugly, and we all see that and work towards that for our clients.
“I started seeing that weight training was important for my health and long-term maintenance“
3. Hobbies and Interests?
I’m a competitive power-lifter, and I hold a state and world record for it. I danced ballet when I was young, and had been doing long-distance running until about a year and a half ago. I started seeing that weight training was important for my health and long-term maintenance.
One day I was at the gym and I saw this woman who was lifting, and she looked so strong, and I decided that I wanted to learn how to do that. I asked her to train me (a couple times) until she agreed, and then I discovered this whole network of coaches and support through it.
It’s also much less time consuming than distance running, so it works better with my busy schedule. Power-lifting is my “for me” thing—time just for me to get re-centered and revitalized.
“I love it so much that it doesn’t even feel like work“
4. How do you maintain or create work-life balance?
Being a mom and working means I’m up very early, and that my day doesn’t usually end until 10pm. The CLC helps me balance my work and life a lot. They understand that life happens and they’re flexible with me. They really support my schedule, and anyway when I get there I love it so much that it doesn’t even feel like work.
“Creating and bringing happiness to myself and others”
5. What are your goals for the firm and in general?
I definitely want to finish school getting my JD, because finishing anything is an accomplishment.
Overall, my goal in life is to do things that bring my happiness. In all aspects of my life. When you don’t love what you do, your life is just a movement, a repetition, regardless of your success. I don’t want my life to become a movement.
Creating and bringing happiness to myself and others keeps it from becoming that.
6. Fun fact about you?
I am the 6th of 7 children and we all grew up in a one-bathroom house.
“I can only control myself, not the situation”
7. Favorite Saying?
Newton’s law of avoidance. It says the more something threatens your identity, the more you’ll avoid it.
I like to remember that because really those things that challenge our identities, our notions of who we are? Those are the areas of ourselves we need to work on the most. To run toward, rather than avoid. When we resist something it’s often the exact thing we need to face head-on to grow and become better versions of ourselves.
That law also reminds me I can only control myself, not the situation.
8. How are you staying positive during Shelter-in-Place orders?
I’m drawing a lot of strength and hope from seeing so many communities come together in so many places. We don’t normally get to see people supporting and taking care of each other this much.
I see families taking walks, laughing, and spending time together, and neighbors looking out for each other and that makes me feel positive.
Family time becoming so central and valued through this is a bright spot in this difficult time. Knowing and remembering that positive things are happening helps me get through the negatives.